For the Love of Food
Hello my name is Kristen and yes, I’m an emotional eater.
This is the revelation I recently realized about myself. I’m currently enrolled in Leadership Social Services and we visited a few agencies that “seemed” to have bigger issues than I did as many of them were recovering alcoholics and drug users. But then I soon realized after listening to their stories that my issues weren’t too far off from the things they deal with. I just use food to cope sometimes instead of alcohol or drugs.[sws_pullquote_right]I’m on a journey to not be emotionally attached to anything unnecessarily. And I’m not afraid to talk about it. [/sws_pullquote_right]
Let’s rewind. I used to drink too much and that was accompanied with what I’d like to term “social smoking”. Then, I had the transforming experience of not wanting to drink too much or smoke and stopped them both cold turkey. Then, I used all of my energy that was formerly used drinking into working out. When I got pregnant, the working out all of the time stopped and I began working my job a lot. I dedicated all of my time and efforts to working over time, all the time.
Then, when I wasn’t working as much anymore, I turned to food. Food to feed the happy emotion, the sad emotion, the “had a good day” emotion, the “had a bad day” emotion.
What am I getting at in all of this? Plain and simple: many of us have gone through seasons of life where we were emotionally attached to a behavior pattern and when we realized that the thing we were attached to wasn’t necessarily the best, we stopped – but then just attached ourselves to something else.
I’m on a journey to not be emotionally attached to anything unnecessarily. And I’m not afraid to talk about it. So THIS time around, when it came time to start the year off with healthy eating and working out, after understanding the root of where I am, here’s what I did differently:
If you have a wonderful husband like mine, he is really happy with me the way that I am. But I had to tell him that I was truly serious and that I had this certain weight loss/health goal and that I didn’t mind him saying, “Babe, that’s enough” in order to help me remain accountable. It’s your husband’s worst nightmare to have to say anything about your weight, but empower them to know that it’s okay. Build your community of people who will genuinely help you reach your goals.
Track Your Progress
Use an app or system that can help you monitor and track what you eat and how much you work out daily. I am in love with the My Fitness Pal app and have friends who are using it too and it’s helped to see what they’re doing and to know that they can see what I’m doing, too. I know the Weight Watchers community has been successful for their tracking methods as well.
Scales Don’t Lie
I used to be one of those who said, “Well, I just know how I want my clothes to fit, and I don’t want to weigh myself.” Listen, truth is the scale doesn’t lie. And don’t be too hard on yourself. I’ve had two babies and can no longer lose five pounds in a week like I used to; however, I can congratulate myself for seeing progress over a time period and be happy with what I see. It takes work, and it’s worth the weight and the wait for you to be honest with where you are.
Enjoy the Process
I have had terribly funny stories already of this process and it’s only been three weeks. Like, for instance when I actually went to buy the scale. It took me an hour in Walmart to choose from the very small selection of scales that they had and another 24 hours for me to even open the thing! All of that “hoopla” to come and find out that I’d already lost six pounds in two weeks. Lesson learned: it’s not always as bad as it seems. Or the time that I wish I had a video camera when I was doing crunches at home and my four year old and three year old joined in with me.
So, my beautiful Rocket City Mom family, YOU are a part of my accountability family now. Took a lot for me to own up to this and write it publicly. It’s been a work in progress for months now. But with your help, we can do this together. In three weeks, I’ve lost 7.2 pounds. I’ll be updating you every month regardless of what my post is about. And I’m broadcasting it here so that my community of Rocket City Moms can comment, discuss what’s hard for you, and help each other on this journey. So here’s to a new you!
Mom of two toddlers. Wife. Loves People. Loves God. Huntsville native and Philadelphia hybrid. Kristen Wilson is a poop stain and baby throw up survivor. And whether she’s in five-inch heels or barefoot teaching dance classes, she’s as real as they come. Known for her transparency and real approach to life, she strives to share her experiences on balancing every aspect of life while still having fun; encouraging others to pursue the best they can be one day at a time.
This post really hits home for me. You know how recovering alcoholics always refer to themselves as alcoholics, even after they’ve not had a drink in years? I think it must be the same for emotional eaters. I know it’s something I will most likely struggle with for the rest of my life – but I’m working hard to make better choices for me and my family.
I LOVE My Fitness Pal and found tracking what goes in mouth was a real eye-opener. Knowing really IS half the battle.
Great post – thanks for being so brave and sharing it with us.
Awesome! Also true for me. I now recognize that I have a hard time relating having fun with having to have celebration food. Just as some can’t have fun without alcohol. I have goals that I need to reach & this can no longer stop me.
Candi! Yes yes and yes! We are in this together. Love you! 🙂
Stephenie – thanks so much for your comments! I think it’s a lot like a recovering alcoholic – we are in “recovery” of our own, and yes it will forever be a life-long process – but one we can overcome, together! 🙂 Thanks again!
Kristen! I am right there with you!!! I’m currently using the Weight Watchers online program and app. It sounds like we need to start a RCM Emotional Eaters Anonymous group 🙂 Great post, and thanks for being super brave and sharing your experiences.
Lexie – yes, yes, and yes! Let’s do it! Thanks a million! Took me awhile to write this one 🙂
I could have wrote this, you hit it! I have transfered my “addiction” as the seasons of my life change. Time to face that and pray for reform.
Dianne, thank you! We have hit it together – I’m praying with you. Life has a way of throwing all sorts of curve balls – I know this all too well. But, you can do this; if I can, anyone can. 🙂 Thanks again for sharing!
Hi sister! Thanks for your transparency. I too am on a quest to get these lbs off. We took family pictures right after the new year and the look of myself brought me to tears. Since January 9th I have worked out every day for 45 min to an hiur. No soda or junk. I am feeling so good and the lbs are coming off. Thanks for your story.
Kia! I know that’s right. Let’s call each other and help keep each other accountable. If you download the MyFitnessPal app with me then we can befriend each other and encourage each other as we watch the pounds come off. Love you so much! 🙂
Hi Kristen. First, welcome to the RCM family! I am a self-described foodie and recovering emotional eater as well. Dont’ get me wrong, I still love food and I have actually been known to hum and or sing while cooking or when food is being brought to my table. But I digress… I understand your struggle completely. I started a similar journey at the end of 2011 and lost about 35 pounds on WW. I don’t track as well as I should but the new, healthier habits I acquired are definitely ingrained. And when I slip back into old behaviors, my body and spirit just don’t feel right. I wish you all the best on your journey, and I’ve heard so much about My Fitness Pal that I think I’ll check it out and join you on your quest. Another 10 lbs sure wouldn’t kill a sista! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks Taralym! It’s always refreshing to hear someone’s journey on the other side, so thank you! We’re definitely in this thing together. Thanks for your kind words and help me stay accountable! 🙂
Sorry for the wrong selling, Taralyn 🙂 wanted to get it right!
Sister!!! Thank you for being obedient to the holy spirit in sharing your experience; I struggle with emotional eating and am ready to overcome this addition. Please help me be accountable in my journey to lose weight and feel great! 🙂 Congratulations to you on your accomplishment and I look forward to us corresponding more!! Love you bunches……
Love you Antoinette! We can do it, girl! We can do it! I will definitely keep in touch 🙂