The Other Side of Love
With the “official love month” winding down, I’ve recently traveled to the other side of love wondering what the people who we hold so dear to us think about us.
Ladies, we are so, extremely hard on ourselves. And the worst part about that is, while some of us are comparing ourselves to others (which is such a hard standard to live up to) – most of us are on own worst enemies. We are comparing ourselves to some standard that exists in our heads, and it’s a standard that no one else even knows exists, at times, except for us.
Dr. Kristin Neff sums it up like this in her article, Why ARE Women So Hard on Themselves?: “Research shows that women are generally kinder, more nurturing and empathetic to others than men. At the same time, they’re meaner, more dismissive, and critical of themselves.” She goes on to conclude: “We have to dismiss the notion that others are worthy of kindness and we are not.”
With that in mind, I challenged myself and some of our Rocket City Mom writers to ask their children a series of questions to see what they loved most about their mommy, and I invite you to do the same. And when you hear the answers, don’t be surprised or alarmed; just enjoy the fact that someone loves YOU just as much as you love others. It’s the other side of love that needs to be embraced just as much as the love you give out every day.
Meet Kristen (mom) and Kayna
What do you love most about your mommy? How she hangs out with me.
What’s your favorite fun thing to do with mommy? Hanging out and watching the singers and dancers on TV.
What’s the favorite thing that mommy cooks? Grilled Cheese
What’s the best place that mommy has ever taken you? Red Robin
You feel happiest when mommy… Hangs out with me.
What’s the funniest thing mommy has ever done? Made silly faces and pretended she’s a cartoon!
Meet Lexie (mom) and Alex
What do you love most about your mommy? The way she smells.
What’s your favorite fun thing to do with mommy? Play (board) games.
What’s the favorite thing that mommy cooks? Tacos.
What’s the best place that mommy has ever taken you? On a big ship with a slide (we took him on a cruise a few years ago).
You feel happiest when mommy… Makes me pancakes, and makes a special heart pancake for me.
What’s the funniest thing mommy has ever done? Have a dance party in our computer room with me.
Meet Taralyn (mom) and Gabby
What do you love most about your mommy? She is funny and smart and the best mom I ever had.
What’s your favorite fun thing to do with mommy? Going to the movies and I like it when she tickles me.
What’s the favorite thing that mommy cooks? Carrot soup and quiche.
What’s the best place that mommy has ever taken you? Opryland Hotel at Christmas time.
You feel happiest when… Mommy hugs me and gives me kisses.
What’s the funniest thing she has ever done? When mommy talked with a [Scottish] accent for a whole day after we saw Brave.
Meet Stephenie (mom) and Finn
What do you love most about me? You have good cooking.
What is my favorite feature? Your arm. I like to hug it.
What’s your favorite fun thing to do with me? Family movie night at home.
What’s the favorite thing that mommy cooks? Meatloaf!
What’s the best place that mommy has ever taken you? To go see plays in the theatre, like “Christmas Carol” and “Robin Hood”.
You feel happiest when mommy does… When you make me feel better when I’m sad and you say “Have no fear, mommy’s here!”
Mom of two toddlers. Wife. Loves People. Loves God. Huntsville native and Philadelphia hybrid. Kristen Wilson is a poop stain and baby throw up survivor. And whether she’s in five-inch heels or barefoot teaching dance classes, she’s as real as they come. Known for her transparency and real approach to life, she strives to share her experiences on balancing every aspect of life while still having fun; encouraging others to pursue the best they can be one day at a time.
And for those of you following me from my last post “For the Love of Food” – I’m 11 lbs down 🙂
I asked my daughter the questions and what her answers were showed that even though days get long, and I get lost in housework, schoolwork, her homework, taking care of the baby and every thing else that I face daily she’s there, and watching even when I don’t realize she is. It felt good to hear that she is proud of me as much as I am her, because she and her brother are the reasons I work so hard everyday. Here are her answers:
What do you love most about your mommy? that you help me
What’s your favorite fun thing to do with mommy? Play grab the crown (We basically chase each other like tag, but whoever isn’t “it” gets to wear a crown)
What’s the favorite thing that mommy cooks? toaster struedel
What’s the best place that mommy has ever taken you? Chattanooga
You feel happiest when mommy… we play together
What’s the funniest thing mommy has ever done? acted crazy and played with me
Anita – thanks for sharing. I think my 4 year old and I have found a new game. What princess obsessed little girl wouldn’t love “grab the crown”?
Love everything about this Anita! I too can get lost in the housework, and it’s so refreshing to know that they understand, even at their young ages. Thank you for sharing! 🙂
Loved this – I did these with my 6 year old (attempted with the 3 and 2 year old) and it was such a great reminder that it’s the little moments that matter the most in these crazy, hectic, scheduled packed days we move through 🙂
Thanks Sally K! I did it with both my 4 year old and 3 year old. And yes, the simplicity of the answers and the things they enjoyed most were the really sincere times spent together. Love that! And thanks for sharing! 🙂
Love it, love it! Thanks for doing this, Kristen!
Thank you for participating, Taralyn! 🙂
So SO cute! Love this!
Thanks Ellen! 🙂
I love this!
I definitely need to ask my 10 year old these things!
This does a mommy’s heart good!!! Thank you for sharing!
Wonderful article! We are linking to this great article on our website.
Keep up the good writing.