I often think to myself that I should invent a “pause” button. Think about it ladies. What if, for just one single moment, we could put everything we’re doing down and just press pause, breathe, take a nap, go to the gym, read a book uninterrupted, or just enjoy the silence? Lisa McClendon, a singer songwriter and mom of eight penned these words: “Two kids yelling mama! Does anybody know my name? Lord, keep me from going insane!”
We all know deep down that we’re not insane, but sometimes feel two steps away from being classified in that category. The word balance in the life of any mom is hard, stressful, unachievable, and even “dreamy” to most of us. But there is a solution to our problems, and an end to our madness, I promise.
As a mother of two, a 4-year-old and a 3-year-old, I know all too well about trying to balance a full time job, a husband, full time ministry, and a home. Moms, we love our children unconditionally. As natural multipliers it is our sincere desire to see everyone else happy, because when the people we love the most are happy, we are happy. However, often times, we end up neglected, bitter, and desiring nothing more than to just sit alone.
So here’s what I’ve done. I’ve created my own “pause” button. Well, not literally, but figuratively. And it starts with us as moms being honest. As much as we’d love to bear the title of “supermom”, multi-tasking on end, cooking, cleaning, and caring for the world, we have to be honest with ourselves first. Truthfully, “supermom” is not whether or not you can do a million things in one day to me anymore. “Supermom” means that I’ve created an atmosphere in my home that envelops love, peace, and one where my kids see me and don’t think I’m busy or stressed out all the time.
My daughter came to me some time last year and said, “Mommy, you’re always working. Even when you’re home you’re working. Can you watch a movie with me?” My heart sunk. I was trying to be “supermom” instead of HER mom.
Here’s the next step. I had a sit-down with my husband and I told him that there are times when I need to pause, and I need you to take the kids, take the house and everything and allow me to pause. Why? Because I’m a better giver when I’ve first given to myself. He understood, and welcomed it – because he wants the best for me.
Ladies, whatever you need to do to create your “pause” button, do it. You end up being a better mom, wife, and person. Because at the end of the day without all of the titles we bear, we’re a person. And that’s the person we want the world to see.
Mom of two toddlers. Wife. Loves People. Loves God. Huntsville native and Philadelphia hybrid. Kristen Wilson is a poop stain and baby throw up survivor. And whether she’s in five-inch heels or barefoot teaching dance classes, she’s as real as they come. Known for her transparency and real approach to life, she strives to share her experiences on balancing every aspect of life while still having fun; encouraging others to pursue the best they can be one day at a time.
So, so, so true! We all need to pause now and then. Thanks for a great article.
Way to go Daughter. Good Godly, Holy Spirit inspired insight. So proud of you. Dad
Wonderful post. Welcome to the RCM family!
Wonderful! I love it. This is awesome & true
I absolutely love everything about this article! I needed to read it today- thank you Kristen!!
What a great reminder! Looking forward to reading more from you!
Awesome post and an awesome reminder to stop trying to be “supermom” and just be MY KIDS MOM. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for a great post and a great reminder.
Pausing for myself is one of the hardest things to do. Great insights! Looking forward to reading more.
What a great reminder, thanks!!
Thanks everyone! I truly needed this revelation first myself. Looking forward to encouraging you more – as I reflect on small life experience that are a part of the bigger picture! Love to you all!
Such a great reminder! Thank you! xoxo
How true, Kristen! I want to add something that Paula Brown said to me when my kids were your kids’ ages. I know you love Paula and she may have told you this herself, but I was at a church meeting with her one morning and I must have been looking pretty frazzled, as Paula said to me, “Do you need a hug?” She hugged me and then said, “Someday, I promise, you are going to realize that it really only takes about 15 minutes to load the dishwasher. And you’ll realize that you really can go to the grocery store in under an hour. And when you realize those things, you’ll also realize that 18 years wasn’t enough.” Now that my kids are grown, I understand what Paula was trying to tell me – don’t get so bogged down in the details that you forget to enjoy your babies and all the joys of motherhood. You’ve hit the nail straight on with your “pause” advice – is that why you always seem so calm and collected? Thank you Kristen and I look forward to reading all of your blogs!
That was great and soooo true; may God continue to bless you with more words of encouragement!
Like the other ladies, this is so relevent to my life. One: Im glad Im not alone. Two:Im reading your article right now, why? because I am taking a “pause”.. Thank you for this one!
Thanks Antoinette and Tasha! Love you guys!